Be the change you wish to see around!!

We all demand a change and in every sphere of life. We want our corrupt government (the one formed by us) to change. We want the ecosystem to change as it is affecting our health. We want our blind hypocrite society to change. Then we want change at the personal front too...some want their office culture to change...some want their dear one's behavior to change....and there are some who DONT want any CHANGE...well forget about such people, they are not worth discussing :)

We all know change is the only constant and the very Tao of  the nature of life. So its not a great deal if we demand change. But the big question here is what are we doing for it? How much effort our we putting to see the change.

We all want our society, our government to change. What we need to understand is that these are mere collectives or groups of individuals. Osho in his book "Freedom from oneself" explains this beautifully. We have made these collectives so big that we have forgotten the very source of their existence an "Individual - You and Me".

The change should come in an Individual to reflect the change in these so called groups. Merely cribbing about the issues and demanding change would not bring change. I happened to watch RDB yesterday once again. Loved the way the movie brings out the underlying theme "change oneself to change others"  in a very patriotic manner. This is how we connect to the change most of the time.

koi bhi desh perfect nahi hota useh perfect banana parta hai. Khud ko badlo duniya badlegi!!

Even at the personal front; we keep blaming others for their behavior and shortcomings. We keep telling others how much they need a change. Yes they may need a change for sure. But what we fail to understand is that it could be our own behavior that might be contributing to their response. So if we want to see a change in them we would also need a change. We cant expect to continue to do the same old things yet expect to get a better response from the person we are complaining about. And then keep wondering and grudging about nothing has changed.

No one is perfect. We are all thriving hard to be one. Its unreal to expect some one who is perfect from top to bottom. Instead what is important to know is the very basic of being perfect. The more perfect we become the more humble we should be towards other's imperfections. So one has to stop being a complain box complaining about others.  

Instead we should bring the change in our self to see and appreciate the change in others. Others might have already changed but due to our own weakness of unable to accept the change require at our end, we fail to see that change.

We should understand that these individuals serve as our mirrors and teach us what needs to be revealed about ourselves. Seeing what we don't like in others helps us look deeper inside ourselves for similar traits and challenges that need to be healed or changed.

For a change to be successful, 'I 'should always come first before anything else. It should be "I need to change to bring a change" and not the other way around.

So don't demand a change be the one!!