Are you afraid of hearing a ‘No’??
And what about saying a ‘No’??
And what about saying a ‘No’??
An answer to both would probably be a Yes.
Somehow ‘No’ has a very cynical appeal to the very common sense of Human Beings. A ‘No’ is a very difficult answer to verbalize and at same time, to many it is a most negative response to give.
We all have been taught from our childhood days that a positive attitude - ‘can do’ is the best way to get ahead. True; optimisms is a key to success. But this should not stop us from saying ‘No’. Sometime saying ‘Yes’ can have a drastic negative impact in our lives than probably a ‘No’ could.
We don’t need to be nice to people by saying yes all the time. People tend to take us for granted and there are few who start assuming us to be a doormat. So it is important to erect a wall unapologetically, to show them we have our own commitments and they are not always in our priorities. To make them realize that we are not simply a doormat but a force to be reckoned with.
Even professionally we don’t need to say ‘Yes’ to everything and anything. Certainly not to something which requires us to pull our magic wand from no where and develop a flawless difficult task overnight. It is a wrong notion that Managers always like hearing ‘Yes’. They would respect us if we give proper reasoning for our disapproval. After all saying ‘No’ means we have an opinion or a reason. So better sell it, at least it is better than the get-er-done mentality.
And then we have the most difficult situation of saying ‘No’ to a relationship which is not working. One has put in everything one could and deep inside one knows it’s not gonna work …Yet it is difficult to say ‘No’and to end it. Fear of loss...it is…yes it is…But what we fail to understand is, one is still in fear by being in it. A fear of its working and of making a right choice… So both way its fear...and where there is fear; there is no love… So better let it go…Sometimes its better off saying goodbye than holding on to it.
And I must say; once the plunge is taken to say a ‘No’; one would be a free bird enjoying life. One would realize what and how much one has missed life by being in that mess for so long.
I guess we should have a clear idea of our priorities to help us decide when to say ‘Yes’ and most importantly when to say ‘No’
Someone rightly said, "Learning how to say no is an art form," he further explains. "The key is to make sure the person doesn't feel rejected."
