We all
demand a change and in every sphere of life. We want our corrupt government (the
one formed by us) to change. We want the ecosystem to change as it is affecting
our health. We want our blind hypocrite society to change. Then we want change
at the personal front too...some want their office culture to change...some
want their dear one's behavior to change....and there are some who DONT want any
CHANGE...well forget about such people, they are not worth discussing :)
We all
know change is the only constant and the very Tao of the nature of life. So its not a great deal if
we demand change. But the big question here is what are we doing for it? How
much effort our we putting to see the change.
We all want
our society, our government to change. What we need to understand is that these
are mere collectives or groups of individuals. Osho in his book "Freedom
from oneself" explains this beautifully. We have made these collectives so
big that we have forgotten the very source of their existence an "Individual
- You and Me".
The change
should come in an Individual to reflect the change in these so called groups. Merely
cribbing about the issues and demanding change would not bring change. I
happened to watch RDB yesterday once again. Loved the way the movie brings out
the underlying theme "change oneself to change others" in a very patriotic manner. This is how we
connect to the change most of the time.
koi
bhi desh perfect nahi hota useh perfect banana parta hai. Khud ko badlo duniya
badlegi!!
Even at
the personal front; we keep blaming others for their behavior and shortcomings.
We keep telling others how much they need a change. Yes they may need a change
for sure. But what we fail to understand is that it could be our own behavior
that might be contributing to their response. So if we want to see a change in them we would also need a change. We cant expect to continue to do the
same old things yet expect to get a better response from the person we are
complaining about. And then keep wondering and grudging about nothing has
changed.
No one is
perfect. We are all thriving hard to be one. Its unreal to expect some one who
is perfect from top to bottom. Instead what is important to know is the very
basic of being perfect. The more perfect we become the more humble we should be
towards other's imperfections. So one has to stop being a complain box
complaining about others.
Instead we
should bring the change in our self to see and appreciate the change in others.
Others might have already changed but due to our own weakness of unable to
accept the change require at our end, we fail to see that change.
We should
understand that these individuals serve as our mirrors and teach us
what needs to be revealed about ourselves. Seeing what we don't like in others
helps us look deeper inside ourselves for similar traits and challenges that
need to be healed or changed.
For
a change to be successful, 'I 'should always come first before anything else. It should be "I need to change to bring a change" and not the other way around.
So don't demand a change be the one!!
