“Love is I know not what, which comes from I know not where and finishes I know not how.”

No not again!! ” Why do people keep writing about this so called “Love”? May be this would be the first reaction of people reading the subject line. But then deep in our hearts we still crave to read and know more about this feeling. This is because “love” is a summation of all the emotions of life. As they say the color “white” is formed by mixing all the colors of rainbow…The purest and the color of divine. Similarly it is through Love we experience all the emotion of life. .However it may not be pure after all we are Human and then it’s the “human love"

Most of the people would agree with the subject line. Whether they are in love or they are not. . No one can actually define it; but we still keep trying to find out “what is love?” or to that matter” what is true love?” Even I would like to try my hands on to share some of my thoughts on Love...

So here it goes…………

One has just met somebody, and is with them, the love is flowing beautifully, and everything is wonderful. We feel as if an angel from heaven has come to minister to us particularly. We don’t know what to make of this feeling – feeling which has steadily increased with its intensity…it is like sitting on the side of a fence and watching ourselves…yet we are powerless to stop any of our actions…an awareness has arisen…with this a longing…a desire…and a sweet pain ensues…the feeling is not bad…it is constant…

We go all the way to do things to become a part of that somebody’s life. The whole process makes us feel happy and excited. There is nothing else in mind; no other thought as who feels what; all that matter is to experience that unknown feeling again and again…may be love?

The original love of two people — is as beautiful as any saint's love, in the beginning. . The so called “altruistic love “ .. What is it that we love in another person when we meet them? We love something that's unnamable in them, and when we first meet them we actually rise in love (and not fall in love – that’s important)

Then gradually the love gets trampled in the undergrowth of the emotions and tensions of living. Things which were being done initially to get the love were getting lost. The two of us gradually start taking each other for granted; then there are lies and hidden facts that are factor of ruining a relation.

All at once one of us do something — — we rub the other person the wrong way or we rub their ego, and that love begins to cease to flow so beautifully after a time. Is it not so? The frailties of man, his ego, get in the way, and both of us rub each other's egos. And after a while, instead of loving, we are quarreling.

The love within never decreases or diminishes. I repeat: the love within us never decreases or diminishes. Rather, the situation of what we term human love very often brings out the selfishness, the desires, the pettiness, the frustrations, and sometimes even the hate, envy, anger and jealousy. All these are generated from the ego being curbed by another's ego.

What are we really wanting is an object to love, a person to love. Are we wishing to love them unconditionally or conditionally? Not so easy, you say. No, not so easy. We have to train ourselves to open our heart so it will love. If it were so easy to unconditionally love, then there would be no change when conditions change. No, most people are looking to receive, and when the other person changes from a sweet, loving person — a near-saint as we saw it in the beginning when God sprinkled that gold dust in our eyes, an angel from heaven, as the songs say, that came to minister to us and to help our life — when they change into a human being in our eyes, a human with the same frailties as ourselves, we wilt in disappointment. If we had truly loved, it would not change with a changing of the winds. Our love would flow with understanding of the other's needs: that they may need love more than we love.

May be for now I end here.. Though this is not an end as I believe if things don’t end with a positive note then the beginning of a new chapter of life will never be positive and would always have some negativity of the past.. May be right now I am not that positive enough to write any such thing..

So for now I would leave it as “to be continued-“

---- would come back to it with something more positive to end the topic…